Am I responsible for how someone else feels?

“You made me feel this way!” I’m sure you’ve heard that before. Or perhaps you were even the one claiming it. During heated arguments, it’s easy to want to blame someone else for how we’re feeling. The problem is, it’s simply not true. Saying someone else “made us” feel a certain way is a misplacement of responsibility. While their actions … Read More

Self-Care: The need for and the problem with it

I’m sure you’ve heard of the concept of self-care, especially as it pertains to highly sensitive people. The advice of a warm bubble bath and an extrasquare of chocolate in order to soothe oneself has become ever popular in recent years. To be honest, I kind of hate what self-care has become. Self-care has been painted as foofy indulgences that … Read More

What are emotional triggers?

What does “being triggered” even mean? It’s a popular phrase used in recent times, so let’s break it down. Basically,being triggered is used to refer to when you’ve reached an uncomfortable emotional state coupled with a nervous system stress response and are no longer able to access your prefrontal cortex (your rational and compassionate brain). You’re in your reptilian brain, … Read More

Emotions can affect the nervous system: How to deal

If you’ve read my blog before, you’ll know that emotions happen in the body, not in the mind. Yes, it’s true that we concoct all kinds of stories around our emotions that might make us think our emotions are psychological, but the truth is, emotions are energy that change the cellular structure of our bodies. They live in our bodies … Read More

Yes, you feel other people’s emotions

Most of this post is an excerpt from my book, “Embracing High Sensitivity.” As someone with a highly sensitive nervous system, you feel emotions more strongly than others. Just like any other physical stimuli, you feel emotional energy more acutely and process it more deeply than non-HSPs. You’re simply not built for the “shake it off ” mentality. Your nervous … Read More

You are not the problem. The system is the problem.

Dear highly sensitive person (HSP), The advice you’ve been getting sucks. The advice for HSPs reads like a self-help column for people with a pathology, affliction, or mental illness (not that there’s anything wrong with having one of those!). High sensitivity isn’t an illness—it’s a genetic trait. The advice reads as lists of things you need to do in order … Read More

Building Boundaries

Most of this post is an excerpt from my book: “Embracing High Sensitivity: Your HSP Guidebook to Eliminating Overwhelm, Handling Difficult Emotions, and Becoming the Boss of Your Life.“ If you’re a highly sensitive person, chances are you’ve been told that you need to create better boundaries. Which is probably not wrong. What rubs me the wrong way about this … Read More

An Intuitive Lifestyle is Possible

I asked her point blank – “Do you think I could ever do intuitive readings like you?” She laughed, my intuitive friend, and she had this laugh like silver bells. “Of course you can – you just have to learn how.” When I was about 20, I read “Anatomy of the Spirit” by Carolynn Myss and was immediately transfixed. I … Read More

The things I did to be liked

I have a really deep wound.  Some would call it a sister wound, in that it was inflicted when I was very young by someone I believed to be a female ally. And while I knew it was affecting me, I’ve just recently been shown just how this unhealed wound has been sabotaging my relationships. The incident itself is not … Read More

Why a protection shield of white light doesn’t work

Protection isn’t the solution to a porous energy field. There’s this common “knowledge” in the spiritual world that anyone in need of spiritual/psychic protection need only to invoke a protection shield of white light around them and then – abra-cadabra! – you’re protected! Except you probably aren’t. (Especially if that’s the only thing you’re doing). Nope – you’re still picking … Read More